5 ways to protect your teens from online hazards

5 Ways to Protect Your Teens From Online Hazards

The evolution and devolution of technology would have been sluggish and extremely limited had it not been for the internet. Bringing almost the entire world on one platform opened new avenues of innovations.

However, some individuals decided to abuse the opportunity – for betterment provided by the internet – for their ulterior motives.

One such abuse is the invasion of privacy. Especially, parents are becoming increasingly worried about how to protect their teens’ safety from the many types of predators scouring the internet for the next victims.

The danger to the kids’ online safety has doubled with the growing popularity of social media networks, where there are more chances of coming across internet predators. A 2017 online study of school and college students found that 88% of students use Instagram and Snapchat, whereas 81% use Facebook. The same study presented that over 50% of students admitted that they use some social media applications over 11 times a day.

The following are some scenarios and the appropriate measures needed to ensure the safety of your children:

1. Talking to Strangers

Predators do not need to lurk around schools, get an ice-cream van or physically visit your house; they can just use Facebook, WhatsApp, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. to establish contact with your children or stalk them. The naivety of children often leads them and lands them in dangerous situations. The anonymity afforded by the Internet is more dangerous than trying to be anonymous in real life.

The Internet has made it much easier for predators to target teenagers. Even if our children are sensible enough not to fall into traps laid by strangers in real life, the internet can lead them to meet someone online, and that’s where things get ugly. At best, teens’ safety gets exposed to some unwelcome suggestions. However, unfortunately, some teens do virtually meet strangers posing as younger people, and that can put them at potentially life-threatening risks.

Talking to stranges online

Source: GadgetGuy

Solution: Teach Them to Be Aware of Strangers Online

Amichai Shulman, CTO of network security firm Imperva, shed some light on how to tackle this issue. Being a father of 4 children, he said,

“My basic belief is that adults have proven to be vulnerable to cyber attacks and therefore, we cannot expect children to be any better, especially, given that their sense of curiosity is far more developed and their senses of caution far less mature.

I explain to them about hackers being a type of criminal that breaks into your house through the computer rather than through the window. It’s easy for them to understand it. I don’t allow my children to open a mail package if they don’t KNOW who sent it (or got my permission to do so) – much the same way, I don’t allow them to open unsolicited email attachments.”

 

2. Giving Away Too Much Personal Information

Teens’ safety is also compromised due to over sharing of personal information. Most teens don’t know the consequences of it. After all, it's easy to get pulled into an online conversation and give away the name of your town or school.

People may pretend to be teenagers on the internet because other teenagers feel safe and can lay down their guard. But, again, they don't always know who they're talking to or who the other person actually is.

revealing personal information online

Source: Evoke.ie

Solution: Educate Early and Often

Samantha Humphries-Swift, a product manager at cyber security firm McAfee Labs, shared her experience regarding teenagers sharing too much information online. She said,

“Get involved – I speak with my daughter regularly about which sites she is using, and given her age, I vet all app downloads. This way, I can keep an eye on security settings and make a judgment on whether I think it’s safe and appropriate for her to use.”

Sally, a full-time blogger & a mother of 1 wrote,

"Predators often get away with it for a long time as they are capable of finding out a lot about their victim and becoming their “perfect” girl or guy. So ensure you lock down your profiles and don’t share too much personal info in public."

Source:10 Things We Learned from Catfish, How do I Keep My Children Safe Online.

 

3. Bullying Others

According to a report presented by the Harford County Examiner on cyberbullying, only 1 in 10 teens inform their parents about being bullied online.

Cyber Bullying

Source: Electronic Access to Information

Sue Atkins, a television presenter, who has presented numerous shows on parenting issues said,

"Unless you’ve directly experienced bullying, you may not realize just how devastating it can be, especially to a child or teenager. As well as being deeply hurtful, bullying can leave children feeling frightened, angry, depressed, and totally undermined and helpless."

No parent would want their children to go through such a traumatic experience and therefore, steps must be taken against bullying and cyber-bullying. Parents should be vigilant and watchful to ensure that their teenagers are neither being bullied nor are they becoming bullies.

 

Here Are a Few Tell-Tale Signs That Your Kid Is a Cyber Bully:

  • Your child has a large number of social networking accounts on multiple sites. A person makes multiple accounts in order to hide his/her identity, and this might be because they use them to harass other kids.
  • You overhear insults, snarky remarks or sarcastic laughter while your child is online or texting. He might be ruining other teen’s internet safety
  • Your child becomes secretive about their online activity: they quickly change the screen or hide their mobile device if you interrupt them and may become annoyed when you walk in on them.
  • They spend long hours online, almost obsessively, perhaps being online when the rest of the family is asleep.
  • Your child is spending time with friends who behave in ways that are mean or uncaring. Often, children engage in cyberbullying to fit in with a new peer group.
  • They don't seem to care if their words or actions hurt others.
  • Share your concerns with your child’s teacher, counselor, or principal. Work together to send clear messages to your child that his or her bullying must stop.
  • If you or your child needs additional help, talk with a school counselor or mental health professional.

Source: Dealing with Bullying

  1. Humiliating or Publicly Shaming Others

Sometimes, whenever someone does something embarrassing or uncharacteristic, someone records it and posts it without a thought. This is something which we do unconsciously. Such acts ultimately puts other teen’s safety on the Internet at risk. Posting a video or a picture without realizing the consequences can destroy a life. Furthermore, when we come across such videos online, we are immediately attracted to it. If we, as adults, indulge in such activities online, how can we expect our teenage children to act any different? They won’t stop until we do.

Encourage Good Netiquette.

Netiquette is the informal code of conduct for the internet. Netiquettes are informal ethical rules for how to behave when relating to other people on the Internet. These include being polite, using correct language, not yell at (write in capital letters) or harass others. Other teen’s safety or privacy should be respected, and free speech should not be confused with hate speech.

Amy McCready, a founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, mentioned in one of her blogs,

"To invest in having one-on-one time with kids, daily. By far, the best thing you can do to improve your children’s behavior is spending time with them individually every day, giving them the positive attention and emotional connection they’re hard-wired to need."

Source: Start with 10 tips for better behavior

5. Viral Video Attempts

Dr. Alan Hilfer, a child psychologist at Maimonides Medical Center, said,

"I think the existing videos validate risky behavior for teens and give them a way to get publicity if they post a video”.

Teen’s safety on the Internet is not always about privacy or online threat. Many teenagers want to be the next internet sensation. Unfortunately, in order to do so, you have to do something extreme. Too often, that results in them doing things that are physically dangerous or even humiliating. Not only are they not prepared for the consequences, they can even sustain life-threatening injuries.

Viral video

How to solve this issue?

Every action has a cause, and there can be various root causes for attempting dangerous stunts, including the aspiration to look cool, achieve universal admiration, earn money or satisfy their adrenaline drive.

Dr. Carol Bernstein, a psychiatry professor at New York University's Langone Medical Center, imparted her wisdom on this topic by saying that,

"Stress should be on knowing our children, watching behaviors and having conversations with them. There's no substitute for parents and teachers who are engaging with their kids."

Keeping teens safe online or offline is every parent’s responsibility. They should recognize the real issues that cause their teenagers to behave like this. To do so, they will have to sit and engage with their children. They should understand what prompted their teens to take this route.

Sometimes impulsive behavior is a consequence of low self-esteem and therefore, it is imperative that parents provide moral and emotional support to their teenagers to make them feel wanted and confident. Teenagers are too concerned about looking cool and being admired by others around them.

It's important to make them realize that they are cool no matter what, and as long as they are their real selves, people will end up admiring them. Perhaps not all of them, but that is a lesson in itself; you can NOT please everybody, so why even bother! Just be yourself and don't do anything stupid.

Source: Dangerous Stunts Seen on YouTube

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